Okay, the title is a joke. Being physically “rough” with a follower is likely to get any leader slapped. At the very least, it’s going to be a lot harder for that leader to get dance partners in the future. However, there is an important point behind the joke in that followers actually do like their leaders to be strong and definitive with every step.
Far too often, even in the major swing scenes, I see leaders who are afraid to use any pressure against their partner when dancing. They tend to think of dancing as romantic and that their partners will appreciate a gentle touch. While I appreciate the sentiment (and I’m sure the followers do as well), this is absolutely the wrong decision. Both people can not be leading the dance at the same time, and if the leader is going to lead, he needs to do so with confidence and authority. Your follower is trusting you, so don’t think you need to ask her permission before every step. The biggest benefit of this is that your follower will very rarely be confused about what you want her to do. Leaders can think several steps in advance, but followers have to react on the spot. Use correct tension and your follower will never be stuck thinking about what step you want her to do. Be strong, but don’t overdo it. Remember, your job is to be clear, not forceful.
In practical terms, here are a few things leaders can do to have a stronger connection with their partner. Whenever you are in a closed position in any dance style (Lindy Hop, East Coast Swing, Salsa, Waltz, etc…) with your right hand behind her, push on her back. Try to match that same resistance by pushing on her right hand with your left so that it’s almost like you are trying to squish her. If you need her to stop, either to strike a pose or to change directions, push down with enough strength that she actually plants her feet solidly into the ground. Whenever you turn your partner, you don’t want to forcefully *crank* their arm, but make sure you do turn her completely. She will follow her hand all the way around, so make sure it gets all the way around. If you really want to hit that fine line of perfect tension, make sure you check out classes by calling (605)212-6230.
I hope no one got the impression that the responsibility for good tension is all on the leader 
Part 2 is coming soon!
